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Loyalty in the Age of Social Media Temptation

Loyalty in the Age of Social Media Temptation

Digital Desire vs. Devotional Love: A Guide to Staying Loyal, Expecting Loyalty, and Communicating Boundaries in a World of Constant Social Media Temptation

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May 15, 2025
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Social media, especially Instagram and TikTok (I don’t use the latter, but I know that the amount of sexual content, even when dressed as “innocent”, is overwhelming, too), has become a window into endless lustful stimulation. There are millions of self-proclaimed “Instagram models”, and photos and videos of half-naked women everywhere, receiving thousands of likes and followers from men, feeding off their attention and lack of control over their sexual energy.

For many, it’s just “entertainment.” But it cannot be purely entertainment if it’s slowly destroying your soul and your relationships. That is called spiritual erosion, when what seems harmless begins to weaken, damage and deteriorate the foundation of your values, your intimacy, and deepest connections.

When it comes to relationships, it can be a like a quiet storm, subtle, yet very, very destructive. Because it destroys trust and safety. Even if a man doesn’t touch another woman, his mind and eyes (or heart, in some cases) may be captivated by the attention of many of these women. Society might say this is “harmless”, and (“liberal”) women who don’t truly love their man or value loyalty might not think it’s a big deal. But it is. It creates harm, and your gut, heart, and body knows it on a deep level.

Many of us have seen those viral posts of women saying, “When you’re going through his following, and one girl’s profile starts glowing”. That moment explains how women don’t even need to check a man’s phone to know something is off. The heart skips a beat when that happens. The stomach turns just slightly. The same thing happens when a woman knows her man is engaging with lustful content, even if he’s not “liking” it, even if he’s just quietly and privately viewing it. Our feminine knowing is powerful. We feel those things. And finding out about those things hurts women.

This is not about jealousy, at all. Sacred union is built on being chosen again and again and again, not just in words but in presence, in attention, and in desire. So, when a man gives parts of that away to strangers online, to women who are presenting themselves for lustful consumption, the woman who loves him feels it. Because women are not just lovers, we are seers. And we don’t always need evidence, we just know.

When a woman finds out that her partner is feeding his eyes and energy into a digital world full of seductive distractions, even if it’s passively, it destroys the sacredness of their bond. Her body may still be there, her voice may still be sweet and kind, but her heart, somewhere, has quietly closed a little. Not because she’s weak or insecure, but because something deeply holy has been dishonored.

Loyalty isn’t just about who you’re sleeping with, or who you choose to spend your future with. It’s also about what you give your gaze to.

Both men and women must be loyal, even with our eyes. A lustful eye is a form of cheating. But it’s worse than cheating, because it’s a constant form of cheating. Your sexual energy should only go to your woman or your man. Not just your body, but your attention, your thoughts, your longing, your passion. That energy is powerful, it’s spiritual. It can create connection or destruction.

Your gaze and the type of content you consume reveal your values. They reveal what you’re drawn to, what you hunger for, who you are, and what you’re truly committed to. The eyes are gates. “The eyes, chico…”

A faithful gaze is a sacred offering. It says, “I choose you, not just when you’re in front of me, but even when you’re not. Even when temptation is one click away. Even when the world tells me it doesn’t matter.”

It does matter.

Love that is loyal with the eyes builds safety. And nothing beautiful and meaningful can grow without trust or safety, even if the love is there. Love that is loyal with the eyes also builds true desire, a desire that is exclusive, and rooted in love and respect, both to your partner and to yourself. It builds peace in a relationship, because nothing is being secretly given away. And in a world that is so addicted to attention and temporary highs, that kind of devotion is oh so divine.

True Masculinity Requires Self-Discipline

Lust is a choice. There’s a common excuse often used to justify a man’s lustful gaze and wandering eyes: “Men just have a lot of sexual energy.” It’s said as if lust is something uncontrollable, as if self-control is unreasonable, and as if women wouldn’t understand because we’re simply not “wired the same”. But the truth is, women are also sexual beings.

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