The Girl Who Didn’t Watch Love Island

Why Women Need to Turn Their Brain Off. The Dark Side of Reality Shows. Protecting Your Lunar Energy. The Men Who Watch Love Island (Yes, This Is a Red Flag). & More

She doesn’t open her gaze to just anything, and certainly not to everything. She protects her peace fiercely.

She is the kind of girl who knows how to rest without seeking to distract herself with soul-destructive worldly pleasures. The kind of girl who finds God and magic even in the quiet corners of her oh-so-interesting and complex mind. She doesn’t need to watch half-naked strangers kiss and argue under studio blue lights to feel alive or to entertain herself. She has more fun praying for others and tending to her own garden. She is already full—of awe, of wonder, of stories that aren’t written by others. She is whole, at peace, in tune with herself. She’s a true lover girl who isn’t easily captivated by the dramas of others. She finds the Divine and herself much more interesting.

And she doesn’t watch Love Island.

Lunar Energy and the Divine Feminine vs Love Island Energy

She also effortlessly embodies what all women should spend more time channeling: her lunar energy.

Lunar energy is feminine energy in its healthiest, most self-nurturing expression. It’s calm, introspective, gentle, and deeply magnetic without even trying.

It feels like those slow, quiet mornings where you take your time drinking your coffee or tea while the sun starts kissing your face, and those soft, cozy evenings where you run yourself a lavender bath, light some beeswax vanilla candles, and listen to smooth jazz. It feels like silk on juicy skin and cotton candy on your lips. It’s the energy of the moon: calm, captivating, and a little mysterious. It’s tied to our feminine intuition, to God’s loving voice that always guides us, and to the hidden but sacred parts within us. It’s rest—real, sacred rest. This kind of feminine energy doesn’t chase after anything; it attracts, receives, and reciprocates. A woman connected to her lunar energy doesn’t stress or rush. She trusts God’s timing, knowing deep down that what’s meant for her won’t come through control, but through faith.

This is the essence of the divine feminine, too, although she is multifaceted. And in that energy, there is no space for chaotic TV shows, no appetite for objectifying, sensationalist voyeurism trying to be sold as “love”. The woman who is living in her lunar energy has no desire to feast on the superficial, often scripted dynamics of strangers’ relationships on a screen, because her spirit is already nourished by something higher, softer, deeper, yummier. She has no interest in the intimacy-stealing nature of those shows.

Shows like Love Island are the kind of content that don’t feed the feminine. It actually poisons the sacredness of feminine energy.

Love Island is a solar show. But it distorts solar energy.

Solar energy, in its true, healthy and balanced form, is powerful. It’s masculine. It’s action-oriented, expressive, active, passionate. It’s like the fire that keeps the hidden night alive, and the rays that infuse the plants with meaning. It’s the energy of the sun: expansive, creative, life-giving. We all need solar energy, both men and women. Mostly men. But when it’s unbalanced or over-stimulated, solar energy can become reactive, performative, and ego-driven. It doesn’t feel warm anymore, it starts burning too hot. And many reality TV shows tap into that disordered, unhealthy solar frequency. They feed off confrontation, exhibitionism, overexposure. And they start controlling your gaze, your attention, and your energy.

When a woman in her natural lunar rhythm consumes this kind of media, it destroys her peace and drains her energy—even if she thinks she’s in control and enjoys that type of content.

I’ve never watched Love Island, but what I’ve noticed in other women is that it also makes them compare, question, and crave. It subtly pulls them out of their intuitive knowing and into a world of artificial stimulation. And over time, it disconnects women from their true feminine power and even from their own body.

These shows push beauty ideals that make women feel like they have to look a certain way just to be “chosen”, and that really worries me. Those ideals become nothing more than fillers all over the face, implants in the body, fake eyelashes, hair extensions, and layers of makeup that turn into masks, etc. And the little I’ve seen—against my will—gave me the impression that even the men they cast for these shows love wearing makeup and fillers.

While these shows might look “fun” or “glamorous” (if you consider Kardashian standards to be glamour) on the surface, they’re sending a message that can mess with how women see themselves deep down. Shows like Love Island are teaching women to see their worth based on how closely they can imitate these artificial “perfect” looks in order to be “loved” and desired, instead of embracing their natural beauty (God made no mistakes when He created you, my love), and being loved for who they are on a soul level. Attraction is important, yes, but these shows thrive off lust.

Not watching shows like Love Island isn’t just about avoiding trash TV (I was going to put “trash TV” in quotes, but honestly, it’s healthier to call things what they are—respectfully, of course, to everyone who’s watched it). It’s about protecting your temple, from your mind to your gaze. It’s choosing to remain connected to yourself and ultimately, to God. Because what you consume becomes part of you, baby. And you want to stay soft, discerning, and magnetic in the most holy way.

Your Eyes Are Gates

Everything you watch becomes part of your internal world. It becomes part of you. Not in some metaphorical, vague way—but literally. Your eyes are gates. They’re not just there to help you observe the world, they’re also doorways. What you see enters. It doesn’t just pass by, it settles in the corners of your mind, your memory, and even your mood.

Think about it like this: if you're constantly eating processed food, and never raw real food—how are you going to feel? Most probably bloated, tired, anxious. And eventually, you’ll get sick. Now imagine doing that to your mind and spirit.

Every time you watch a reality show, endlessly scroll through TikTok, or engage in someone else’s chaotic relationship drama, you’re feeding your soul something. You’re giving your mind food. But not all food is good for you.

Shows like Love Island are designed to make you addicted. It’s not an accident. The sets, the editing, the drama, the people they cast… it’s all carefully put together to keep your attention. Not to nourish your heart or mind, but to take control of and slowly poison your nervous system. It might feel good in the moment, but just like fast food, you don’t see the consequences of consuming it right away.

One of the worst parts is that people often consume it when they’re the most vulnerable—at night, in bed, when they’re feeling tired and a little lonely.

That’s when your spiritual “immune system” is the lowest. Watching reality shows is not a form of resting. Your physical body might be resting—maybe laying in bed or sitting in your couch. But instead of truly resting, instead of letting your mind wind down, you’re feeding yourself junk and chaos, and you’re doing it at the worst time possible. Then you wonder why your dreams feel weird. Why you wake up anxious. Why you’re sad or just not in good mood. Why you feel unloved and hopeless. Why you feel the need to text your ex. Why your standards start to feel shaky and your idea of love starts to blurry.

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I don’t know if you remember Jersey Shore, but Love Island isn’t that much different from it, to be honest. At least Jersey Shore was bold about what it was. They knew they were showing dysfunction and they didn’t try to romanticize it. It was very obviously vulgar, lustful, toxic, dramatic (in the funniest ways, too), but it was more honest about what it was doing to you.

Love Island is made of the same ingredients: lust, betrayal, drama, emotional chaos, body-based validation. But it puts a soft filter over it to give off the message that this is normal, this is modern love, and this is how men and women should treat each other when they like each other. But it’s not. Jersey Shore at least made it epically obvious how empty that lifestyle was. You couldn’t really watch it and say, “This is normal” or “I want that life”.

Love Island, on the other hand, romanticizes the shallow attachment styles and the constant need to prove you’re desirable. People get discarded the moment someone “hotter” walks in, and it’s teaching people to call that “love”. To get used to being chosen one day, and abandoned the next. And to see your value through someone else’s lustful eyes. This is why I respect Jersey Shore more. It was wild and obviously toxic—but at least you could see it for what it was.

Sometimes Women Just Need to Turn Their Brain Off

It’s important to give women some grace too, because honestly, sometimes women just need to turn their brain off. And yes baby, it’s okay to need to turn your brain off. Truly. There’s no shame in rest.

You don’t need to rest because you’re lazy. But because your mind is on all day. Thinking, processing, responding, remembering, planning, feeling. And if you’re even a little introspective or empathetic, multiply that by ten.

From the moment you wake up, your brain is already moving: “Did I reply to that message?” “What do I wear today?” “I need to call my mom” “I should drink more water” “I need to restock on my supplements” “I have to do some laundry” “I have to reply to that email” “I still haven’t returned that package” “Did I book that appointment?” “What time was that meeting again?” “I need to pick up a gift for her birthday” “What should I cook for dinner?” “Wait, did I even defrost the chicken?”

It’s a beautiful thing, being mentally alive like that. And yes, that’s life. But it can also be exhausting at times.

So, of course, by the end of the day, you need a break, and you want to watch something light. Something that doesn't ask anything of you. Something that lets you feel like a non-participant observer instead of the main character for once. There’s no shame in that.

This is where the desire for shows like Love Island or any other “low-effort” entertainment comes in. It’s about rest. Or at least the illusion of it. And truthfully, there’s nothing wrong with that impulse. The need to mentally unplug is healthy. Men enjoy watching sports for the same reason. And women are not machines. You’re not designed to be “on” all the time. The problem is not the need to rest your mind—it’s how you’re doing it.

Because not everything mindless is truly restful.

Your nervous system knows the difference—even if your brain hasn’t caught up yet. So yes, you deserve softness. You deserve those moments of lighthearted escape. But there’s a difference between numbing and nurturing. Instead of numbing out with drama, you can rest by taking a long bath, laying under the sun, going on a walk, reading poetry, painting, praying, dancing, watching a cozy movie, reading a chapter of a beautiful book, sitting in silence while your chamomile tea cools.

You don’t need to watch other people’s lives to escape your own. You don’t have to plug into their chaos to unplug from your thoughts. You deserve more than that. Rest, beautiful girl. But make sure it’s real rest. The kind that nourishes you, not just distracts you.

Your inner world is a garden. And you can’t plant poison and expect roses. The soil must be fertile, but the only thing that shows like Love Island can grow is weeds.

It might look harmless at first. Entertaining, even. But with time, you start to forget what a healthy, vibrant and abundant garden even looks like.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t fully separate “fiction” from reality. If you’re watching people betray each other, lie, cry, cheat, and call it “love”, you will slowly start to normalize that too. We mirror what we absorb. And then, even without meaning to, you find yourself carrying those images into your conversations. Into your own expectations of dating. Into the way you interpret your partner’s behavior. Into the way you love and expect to be treated. It’s tricky like that.

When people say “it’s just entertainment”, I get it. We all need rest. We all need to unwind, to laugh, to feel light for a moment. But the question is, what are you using to relax? Is it actually restorative, or is it just numbing you? If it numbs you or if it’s bad for your mental, emotional and spiritual health, it’s not just entertainment.

A lot of these shows are created for the very purpose of making us forget who we are, and to distract us from our intuition. But you’re not meant to be numb. You’re meant to feel everything. Deeply. And to savor it. You’re meant to wake up refreshed, fall asleep with peace, fall in love with life, and dream of things worth building—things that truly have meaning and will fulfill you on a soul level.

So Why Does It Drawn Women In?

In my opinion, there’s a deeper reason why so many women find themselves drawn to shows like Love Island. It’s not because women love drama or gossip—though, unfortunately, that’s often true in many cases. And I’m not here to judge, but to hopefully awaken women and remind them that they deserve so much better, emotionally and energetically.

Deep down, what women are really seeking is connection, joie, and romance. Women want to believe that love is ecstatic, soul-consuming, and magical. That someone out there is waiting for them and will desire them so passionately.

But shows like Love Island offer a kind of simulation that is basically a game of love, played out for the cameras. It’s like watching animals at the zoo. You see the wildness but it’s all behind glass. It’s not real nature. It’s not real life. It does not define what love truly means. And you’re not living it either, you’re a mere observer.

Or think about it like sports. It’s like watching sports but never moving your own body. This kind of passive watching gives the illusion of closeness, but it’s shallow. And you were not made to be a spectator, my love. You were made to live the experience. To live your own love story.

You’re an island queen. A woman with depth, with wisdom, with a heart designed for fairytale love, honest love, devotional love, true love.

You don’t need a reality TV show to teach you how to flirt. You don’t need scripted lines to tell you what love or passion should look like. You need to remember how to feel—how to trust your intuition, how to set boundaries. You are sacred, and you must be strict with your boundaries, including the content you watch and engage with. You were made to be love. To walk into it. To live it. Not to believe in a Netflix mega-production version of love.

As women, we’re naturally wired for connection and romance. We crave stories. We crave love. We crave that electric feeling of being pursued and chosen by the person we’re also interested in. And when a woman’s life feels a little quiet or slow, watching people flirt, fight and make up, feels like a shortcut to those emotions. It’s emotional fast food. It gives you the flavor without the nutrients. It stimulates and fills a little gap... but it doesn’t really satisfy. Because deep down, what women are actually craving isn’t drama. It’s intimacy.

Shows like Love Island let women watch people “fall in love” from the comfort of their own bed, getting the high of the fantasy without any of the consequences. And there’s no shame in that, either. Sometimes you just want to feel something that doesn’t involve overthinking. Especially if your own love life is feeling a little... dry. But the more you consume those curated, chaotic versions of romance, the more disconnected you can become from our own. It will distort what real, grounded, godly love actually looks and feels like.

It’s not weird or wrong that women are drawn in to shows like Love Island. In fact, I think it’s very human. But just because we understand it, doesn’t mean it’s healthy. Being aware of why it draws you in helps you make better choices. Ones that actually feed your feminine soul instead of draining it and confusing sacred concepts like love.

The Men Who Watch Love Island (Yes, This Is a Red Flag)

It’s one thing when girls watch Love Island—we can (sometimes) understand the subconscious draw to it. But when a grown man is fully invested in who kissed who, who chose who, who fought with whom… something is off. Deeply off.

And, to be honest, it’s kind of gross.

Not in a judgmental, holier-than-thou way. But in a “this says something about how your brain is wired” kind of way. A man who spends his evenings watching half-naked people flirt, lie, and break up, is a man who’s feeding a certain appetite. An appetite for drama, surface-level validation, sexual overstimulation, etc.

And that’s a red flag.

Real masculinity, healthy masculinity, doesn’t have time—or interest—for watching men chase five women in a villa and call it love. A man who is emotionally grounded and spiritually mature is probably too busy building his empire, pursuing his dreams, and taking care of his body and health, to sit down and binge content that glorifies lust and betrayal.

Also, let’s not overlook how the show subtly teaches men that a woman is only as valuable as her body. Or how easily she gives herself away. A man who consumes that kind of content religiously is training himself to see women through that lens, even if he swears he “just likes the drama”. And that affects the way he dates. The way he flirts. The way he commits—or doesn’t.

So yes, it’s a red flag. A big one. Not because watching TV is a “sin”. But because a man’s media diet says a lot about what he values. And a man who values artificial beauty and hypersexual entertainment is probably not going to show up with discipline and devotion.

It’s also just… embarrassing. Like—why are you, as a man, emotionally invested in who dates or sleeps with whom? It’s giving weak energy. It’s giving boy energy, not man energy.

My man, for example, doesn’t even watch shows. He spends his time building, working, learning. He works hard, sweats working in the yard, pours into his projects, buys raw foods to nourish his temple, spends time in nature. He’s always creating, writing, fixing, expanding his mind. He doesn’t need to watch reality TV in his free time, because he’s deeply connected to his (healthy) masculine energy.

The Dark Side

There’s something even deeper going on beneath the surface when so many people find themselves hooked on shows like Love Island.

At its core, Love Island and similar reality TV shows operate like a brainwashing agenda. They romanticize lust as if it were love, twisting our understanding of what real connection looks like. The psychology behind these shows is designed to stimulate your mind with conflict, jealousy, and heartbreak—all the emotional rollercoasters that spike dopamine and keeps you coming back for more. This is a strategy to grab and hold our attention. In many ways, it’s not unlike how drug companies operate. They keep you addicted, even though it’s not good for you.

Reality TV is, in reality, presenting a form of behavior that is highly destructive. It normalizes betrayal, lust, and emotional immaturity, and the pain and breakups are dramatized as if all that drama—which surpasses the drama in Turkish soap operas and novelas (if you know, you know)—is a necessary part of romance.

Even more concerning is how these shows condition men and women not to trust each other. The constant cheating, lying, and backstabbing plant seeds of insecurity and untrustworthiness in the minds of millions of people—many of whom are young and therefore still moldable. When you watch people treat each other like they’re disposable, it subtly rewires your expectations in real life. You start to question people’s motives, second-guess your feelings, and wonder if love is even possible without the pain and games.

Love Island is teaching you to behave in ways that hurt both others (and yourself). It normalizes impulsive, reactive, and surface-level actions, rather than engaging from a place of genuine interest in someone’s whole being and with respect. It makes it look like lust is the only path to passion. But real love isn’t messy. It’s otherworldly. It’s kind, patient, respectful, attentive, considerate, consistent, nurturing, and just epically nourishing.

Love Island fits into a larger system of subtle mass mind control. It’s no secret that powerful groups (like the CIA) have long used media to distract and disconnect people from their true selves and from anything sacred. When that happens, we’re less likely to question what’s really going on around us, to connect deeply with our own intuition and values, or even to remember our true God-given worth. This kind of programming keeps people distracted, divided (gender wars), and emotionally drained, making it easier for systems of control to exercise their power. This is another reason why these reality shows will never be just entertainment—and why I speak so strongly against them.

These shows might fill a void for a little while, but what they actually do is deepen it, leaving you more disconnected from yourself and from true love.

Protect Your Lunar Energy & Tap Into Love

There is a war on your attention, babygirl.

The world is constantly trying to harvest your lunar energy—your soft, reflective, romantic, creative self—and giving you nothing of substance in return.

You are not made to be consumed. You are made to be inspired. Read. Write. Daydream. Pray. Dance for no reason. Reflect. Adore.

God is the first Author of love stories. If you want a real love story, one that is sacred, safe, and divine, begin by letting Him inspire you. Take time to talk to God about the desires of your heart. He won’t shame you for desiring love. He placed that desire there Himself. But He wants to fill it before anyone or anything else does. The only reason God might have not given you what you desire yet is not because He hasn’t written your love story, but because He is protective with His timing. He knows what’s best for you. And He wants you to be prepared.

So pray. Write love letters to yourself and to your future husband. Write poetry that no one else will see. Connect with that feeling of being in love before you even meet your person.

Read Jane Austen instead of shows like Love Island. Read the Psalms. Read anything that makes you slow down, remember who you are, and believe in true love. Mr. Darcy didn’t love Elizabeth because she was the “hottest” girl in the room. He loved her because she was captivating, intelligent, and respected herself. He loved her aura, the exquisite uniqueness of her soul. He loved her for who she was, not just for how she looked. Even in fiction, you’ll find better models than what many “reality” shows offer. So please, guard your senses like sacred gates. Don’t consume what confuses you. Consume what calls you higher.

Your own love island will be so much better. So much more interesting. So much more magical. So much more real. You deserve that kind of love story, and if you’re not experiencing it yet, trust that it’s already on its way.