True Love Doesn’t Need Rules: Part 2

Are They “The One”?, How to Know if Your Doubts Are Warnings from God, Soul Ties vs Covenant Bonds, Honor Each Other, Co-Create Together, Quizzes, & More.

Love doesn’t need a manual. It doesn’t need games, manipulation tactics, manifestation techniques, or forced dating rules to survive.

True love simply flows because it’s rooted in something deeper than lust, common interests, or even fear (fear of abandonment, fear of being alone). True love doesn’t need rules because your love story will be written by God, not by any dating coach.

True love is divine, mature, healthy, healing, holy. It doesn’t need to constantly ask, “Am I doing this right?” or “Do they even like me?” because it always moves with intention and clarity. It honors, nurtures, and builds without needing to control or perform. True love doesn’t need rules because it’s rooted in alignment.

True love won’t manipulate you.

True love won’t make you pretend to be someone you’re not.

True love won’t be superficial.

True love won’t leave you on read.

True love won’t make you ask for clarity.

True love won’t make you question your worth.

True love won’t say you’re “too much” for having a heart that feels deeply.

True love is gentle.

True love is safe.

True love is consistent.

True love is thoughtful and considerate.

True love is patient.

True love feels like peace.

True love honors God in how it treats you.

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In Part 1 of “True Love Doesn’t Need Rules”, I explored how real love doesn’t demand any rigid systems in order to work. When two hearts are aligned with God’s plan, they don’t need to manipulate or manufacture love through control. In this second part, I’ll go deeper into what divine love does look like when it’s not confined by any silly (though in very rare cases, useful) dating rules or tactics.

Note: At the end of this article, I’ve also included simple quizzes to guide you in discerning whether you have found true love.

Are They “The One”?

Sometimes, people think that someone is “the one”, but deep, deep down, there’s a voice that comes with doubt or confusion. That voice is important, my love, it’s often how God communicates with us, warning us when something isn’t quite right. Sometimes divine guidance also looks like something feeling off, even if you can’t immediately name what it is.

When you meet your true love, the soul connection will resonate on multiple levels: mind, body, heart, and spirit. Perfection doesn’t exist, no human or relationship is perfect—but the core essence of the relationship will feel peaceful and aligned. There will be no red flags, they won’t give you the “ick”, and there will be no doubts. You’ll know that it’s them.

If you find yourself constantly questioning things, feeling that you deserve better, not feeling seen on a soul level, or constantly questioning the relationship’s foundation, it’s worth pausing and listening closely to those feelings. Sometimes doubts arise from fear, insecurities, or past wounds. But most of the time, they are messages from your intuition, from God, urging you to reconsider if they’re truly “the one” for you.

How to Know if Your Doubts Come from Fear, Insecurity, or Past Wounds

You worry about being abandoned, betrayed, not being enough, or simply being hurt and disappointed again, even if the person’s actions have been consistent and trustworthy. You may find yourself projecting old pain onto a new person, assuming history will repeat itself. The person is showing you consistency and trying to make you feel loved, but you struggle to receive it. You find it hard to fully accept the love and to rest because your nervous system is used to chaos or inconsistency. The doubts feel more like internal anxiety, not external red flags. There are no signs of disrespect or misalignment, but your mind still struggles to feel safe because of past wounds.

How to Know if Your Doubts Are Warnings from God

Your doubts come with specific, recurring red flags. You notice patterns of disrespect, dishonesty, or misalignment. Your peace feels consistently disturbed. You have to walk on eggshells with them because they don’t make you feel safe when you express yourself, your needs, or your emotions. You feel like you’re constantly negotiating your worth, boundaries, or values. You have to compromise or stay quiet to “keep the peace” to make the relationship work. Those who love you can sense that something is not right and that you deserve better. You experience many cycles of instability or emotional highs and lows. You can hear God telling you it’s time to let go, even if you keep ignoring His voice.

[Stay tuned until the end of the article to take the quizzes that will help you find out if it’s true love, if it’s love or a game, and more.]

Honor Each Other

In true, divine love, you both respect each other’s minds and voices. You don’t just hear one another, you listen deeply, because you care. You try to keep learning more about them because you want to know how you can keep loving them better every day. You don’t become defensive when they give you feedback. In fact, you value it, because you appreciate (their) honesty and you desire to keep becoming the best version of yourself—for you and for them. You value and honor their opinions, and there’s no need to avoid any conversations.

You have each other’s back. Even if you disagree, you still want to understand each other. Even if problems arise, you still want to find solutions together, as a team.

There is no power struggle in true love. There is no fear of being too much or not enough. There is grace. There is patience. There is mutual understanding. There is respect. And there is a deep admiration for the soul in front of you. You don’t need to perform or prove yourself. You are loved as you are. You both are always honest, but your truth comes from a place of love and respect. You pray for one another. You cheer for one another. You protect each other’s hearts. You walk hand in hand, toward the same vision.

Honoring each other is a holy act of worship. When you truly honor each other, the relationship becomes a sacred sanctuary where you both can be yourselves without fear of being misunderstood.

But honoring each other is also about how you greet each other after a long day. It’s in how you respond when you're tired. It’s in softening your tone when there are some disagreements. It’s in not only being present, but making sure you’re offering them your full presence. It’s in remembering the little things that matter to them, and making space for their emotions. It’s in speaking life over their dreams, and celebrating their wins, no matter how small.