Celibacy

Why Celibacy Is Sex-Positive. Religion, Spirituality, and Trad Aesthetics. Celibacy as an Act of Self-Love. & More

Venus by Henri-Pierre Picou (1824–1895)

This hypersexualized and distorted (yet still beautiful, despite its flaws) modern world we live in has brainwashed people into seeing sex as something casual, even as a performance. One thing I’ve noticed is how many people use sex to fill a void, whether it’s to seek validation, to feel physically desired (sometimes rooted in insecurity), to feel like someone is “choosing” them (rooted in a deep need to feel emotionally chosen), or, in some cases, to feel the need to prove that they’ve dated many people, as if it was something to feel proud of (most common in men, but nowadays, it’s also extremely common in women, unfortunately).

In my opinion, one of the most beautiful ways for women and men to rebel against this degeneracy is to choose to stay celibate.

Celibacy, when we choose it from a place of self-love and self-respect, makes us magnetic. It makes us glow from the inside out. It adds the most beautiful, vibrant colors to our aura. It makes us prettier. It makes us wiser. It makes us feel more energized. It helps us listen better to our intuition. And it helps us attract what is truly meant for us because we’re not sharing our precious energy with the wrong people. By staying celibate, we stay loyal to our future, the future that God has chosen for us, the future that is filled with blessings that will exceed our own expectations. We just have to trust and keep respecting our body, heart, and energy.

If you are constantly dating or sleeping with the wrong person, you’re closing the door to the right person—the person who will not only make you feel desired on a physical level but also on an emotional and mental level. That is true intimacy, the intimacy that we all crave deep down.

If you’re giving away your body to the wrong person, you’re creating soul ties that can cloud your judgment and sabotage your future. You’re allowing someone temporary to leave a permanent imprint on your body and soul. Sex is never “just sex”, baby. If it were, it wouldn’t create life. Sex is sacred. Immensely sacred.

Choosing celibacy is choosing yourself and the future that you’ve always dreamed of. It's choosing to wait in faith. Faith that the right person will not need to be seduced, chased (if you’re a man, you should only pursue a woman, not chase her), or convinced. Faith that real love honors boundaries. That true intimacy is never in a rush, and that the one meant for you will recognize your value without needing to lust after you.

Unfortunately, the world mocks purity. Many people call it “old-fashioned”. They tend to mention the word “religion” too, to try to dismiss it (“Oh, that’s just a nonsense religious rule to make you feel oppressed.”). But they’re speaking either from their own wounds, ignorance, or lack of self-respect.

There is nothing, absolutely nothing, more revolutionary, powerful, empowering, and obviously beautiful than a woman or man who honors their own sacredness in a world that glorifies lust, instant gratification, self-indulgence, and carnal excess. And let me tell you, none of those things are “freedom”. They are mere temptations and illusions of autonomy that promise “liberation” but leave the soul emptier with every indulgence. Pretty lies wrapped in dopamine.

If casual sex/dating was freedom, it wouldn’t leave people feeling empty afterward, and more broken than before.

I want to believe that those who mock purity often do so because they simply don’t understand it. They haven’t tasted the sweetness of peace that comes from not being bound up in drama, confusion, or sharing parts of your soul (not only your body) with the wrong person. They haven’t learned the joy of loving themselves enough to wait for what’s truly worthy.

Thankfully, there are also many of us who see things through the right lens.

People who adore and respect themselves, and understand the sacredness in things, move differently. We don’t trade our future for momentary pleasure, and we don’t give just anyone access to us. Not because we think we’re above anyone else, or have some type of weird superiority complex, but because we live in devotion: to ourselves, to our future, and to the right person. We know that celibacy will prepare us for a love that is holy, will preserve our peace, and will keep our vibrant aura beautifully intact. We don’t need to prove anything to anyone. We just desire to live a life that reflects the divine within us.

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Celibacy Is Sex-Positive

There’s a difference between being sexually inactive and being celibate. One is circumstantial, the other is sacred and a conscious choice. Celibacy is not suppression, and it’s not just “not having sex”. It’s a devotional vow. Some people are not having sex for many reasons, but celibacy is an act of love for your body, your heart, your soul, your health, and for your future. Celibacy is not waiting for someone to come along and change your situation. It is not rooted in fear, trauma, past pain (heartbreak), or religious guilt.

Repression is sometimes unconscious, but celibacy is fully conscious. And because of this, celibacy can be incredibly empowering, contrary to what this silly, misguided, and broken (but still beautiful!) society tells us.

Celibacy is not a rejection of your sexuality. It’s one of the most sex-positive decisions a person can make. It doesn't come from denying your sexual nature, it comes from deeply understanding it. It doesn’t mean you don’t have desires, it means that you are so in tune with your body that you know not everyone is worthy of experiencing it. It’s honoring the sacredness of your vessel and the sacredness of sexual intimacy. That is sex-positivity at its highest level.

True sex-positivity is not measured by how often you have sex or how many partners you’ve had. It’s measured by the relationship you have with your own body and sexual energy. When we practice celibacy, we feel at home in our own body, without needing someone else’s affection or attention to make us feel whole.

A celibate or godly person is not an asexual person. They’re deeply connected to their divine sexual energy, but never ruled by lust. When you’re celibate, you understand that your sexual energy is your life-force energy, creative energy, and healing energy. And that’s why you don’t give it away lightly. To be celibate is to be fully aware of your sexual nature, your capacity for love, and to choose to respect that energy and save it only for the right person.

Religion, Spirituality, & Trad Aesthetics

Celibacy also exists in religious traditions. But its power isn’t limited to whether you go to church every Sunday, read your Bible, or follow a specific doctrine. Celibacy, at its core, is all about energy. It’s about protecting yourself, not only on a physical level, but also on a spiritual level.

However, I do believe there’s a reason why God wants us to be celibate. And no, it’s obviously not because He wants us to suffer or is trying to shame us for being human—that’s a very distorted view of His heart. It’s also not because He has a bunch of rules that “don’t make sense”. They do make so much sense. Just like any loving father, God wants to protect us. He sets boundaries because He loves us. He knows that sex isn’t just physical, it bonds (not in a positive way if it’s with the wrong person). It ties people together in ways often invisible to the eye. And because He understands how sacred and powerful sex is (positively powerful when shared with the right person), He reminds us not to share our body with just anyone.

Most of the pain people have experienced in relationships didn’t come from preserving and honoring what’s sacred. It came from giving too much, too soon, to someone who wasn’t meant to be. It came from giving something deeply precious away for free, when it’s one of the most priceless things about you.

God is not trying to deny us love or physical intimacy. God created life, and God created sex. He’s just trying to lead us to real love, the kind of love that’s built on more than just physical connection. God knows how much heartbreak we could avoid if we waited. He knows how much more joy we’d experience if we reserved our bodies for the one who proves their love through action, not just words. Sex is meant to deepen what already exists, not to create something that was never there.

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There is a reason why all religions advise us not to share our bodies freely. In Christianity, sex is seen as covenantal, not casual. The body is called a temple of the Holy Spirit, and sexual purity is advised in order to respect ourselves and our future spouse. In Islam, “zina” (sex outside marriage) is forbidden. Hinduism teaches about “brahmacharya” (the practice of celibacy), and it’s seen as a way to conserve life force (“ojas”), and to elevate our consciousness. In Buddhism, monks commit to celibacy to quiet the desires of the body and detach from worldly cravings. Even in Stoic philosophy, it’s viewed as a virtue (it’s a beautiful reflection of our self-discipline).

But even the goddesses understood the sacredness of the body. Aphrodite, the goddess of desire, was also a guardian of sacred union. She knew her worth and was selective with her love. Venus, too, is known for her sensuality, but she didn’t belong to anyone, she belonged to herself first. Sensuality and celibacy are not opposites. We just have to understand that our bodies are not just a flesh.

God’s ways are not “outdated”. Society has tried to mock them because society is just wounded, lost, and most people are severely disconnected from themselves.

When a godless society treats sex as meaningless, people begin to treat themselves and others as meaningless. When we start treating what has always been sacred as disposable or worthless, we are facing a serious problem.

And yes, you can be celibate and spiritual or religious.

You can also be celibate and secular.

And you can be celibate and deeply sensual.

The point is intention, not institution.

Celibacy is also definitely not about following some trad aesthetics. We’re not talking about performative femininity, 1950s gender roles, or the aesthetic of being “modest” for the sake of some male approval. True celibacy is not about trying to appear “pure” to fit into a traditional mold. It’s about being whole, grounded, and deeply connected to yourself. Celibacy doesn’t mean you’re trying to be a “good girl” or “good guy.” It means you know that your body is a temple, and your love is not meant to be reduced to a transaction.

The rise of trad aesthetics romanticizing traditional values has brought celibacy and purity back into popular discourse. And I love that. That’s good. But the thing is, while the return to chastity and long-term commitment can be beautiful, the way these values are often promoted within trad culture can be deeply flawed and, frankly, disconnected from their sacred roots. In some cases, it can even do more harm than good.

When celibacy is pushed from the outside in (driven by trends or based on appearances, external pressure, and social expectations), it starts to feel like a performance. It’s as if, to fit into this “aesthetic” and gain validation from others within these communities, you have to avoid casual sex or casual dating. Or save yourself for marriage. But that’s not the real reason we should choose celibacy.

I know this isn’t always the case for everyone in these communities. And I align with almost all of their narratives and perspectives, I believe they come from a beautiful, pure place. But sometimes, there are flaws as well.

Many trad communities talk about celibacy as if it’s just a box to check in order to be a “high-value woman” or a “wife-worthy” man. It’s often tied to marketability, not to self-love. And that’s the problem, when it becomes about being picked, not about being whole.

My concern with this approach is that it can center external approval instead of internal alignment with your own amazing spirit. It tells people that their worth is rooted in how untouched they are or how modestly they dress, and over time, this can create resentment, shame, or confusion, especially if people don’t truly understand why celibacy is sacred and healthy for us. You can’t live out celibacy just to be accepted by a community, a future spouse, or a “trend”, my love. Even if you love and trust God, and you know that Scripture recommends sexual abstinence, you should also understand the real reason it’s encouraged—and learn to love your body devotionally.

Celibacy As An Act Of Love

Celibacy is in fact so easy when you know your worth. When you know that your body is a portal, and your heart is an oracle, and when you understand that to be sexually intimate with someone is not just to merge bodies, but souls.

Our bodies are not meant to be “used.” This is why when a woman or man is celibate, they shine, they glow. Because they’re not leaking energy, they don’t need to use sex as a tool to feel validated, accepted, and desired. They’re not confusing lust with love. And they’re not offering fragments of themselves to those who cannot hold the fullness of them.

You’ll never regret choosing celibacy, and you will never regret protecting your peace.

You are not “missing out” by choosing celibacy. You are preserving your magic, baby. You are protecting and honoring your sacred temple. Celibacy is not about denying your desires, it’s about aligning with your highest values. It’s about knowing that the only person who deserves access to your body is the one who proves they can be trusted with your heart. Someone who won’t rush past your heart to get to your body. Someone whose intentions are clear and holy, not lustful. Someone who sees your body as art, and your soul as the masterpiece.

When the time comes to break your celibacy, it won’t be because of temptation. It will be because of love, because of safety, because of God’s confirmation. And when it happens, it will be healing and divine.

I dream of a world where people reprogram their view of sex, reclaim their sacredness, protect their aura, heart, mind, time and energy, and treat their body like the altar it is. And I also dream that those who choose celibacy out of shame stop seeing sex as a taboo.

Your sexual energy is a powerful force. It can heal or destroy, depending on how it’s used. When it flows from lust, it can bring chaos and even health problems, both mentally and physically. It can destroy. But when it flows from love, it brings health, clarity, healing, warmth, peace, and deliciousness.

Ephemeral pleasure is never worth sacrificing eternal peace. And when you finally find real love, it will arrive like a Marian apparition: graceful, peaceful, radiant, and divinely orchestrated. So allow yourself to savor the moment.

Until the one God has chosen for you comes into your life, keep pouring into yourself. Keep nurturing your divine femininity or masculinity. Keep dancing. Laughing. Resting. Creating. Building empires. Frolicking under the sun. Praying. Keep preparing your spirit to receive a love that’s eternal and sacred.