Thank you. Beautiful work. As a male who has been told he’s extremely handsome his whole life, but has been sexually disciplined, I’ve been questioned often by both men and women as to why. Of course, most think it’s because of insecurity or fear or not being alpha, you name it. When I tell them that as a young child I experienced what infidelity does to a family, friendships and a community and lived with a father who was anything but sexually disciplined it leaves deep scars. It’s taken me years to come to terms with that part of myself. From now on I can share this essay with them as my answer.
Thank you so much for sharing. Just because some people don't fully understand it doesn't mean it's not normal. It makes even more sense when you've experienced the things you did in your childhood. Some events in my childhood also shaped me into the woman I am today and are the reason I've chosen this path.
Keep honoring yourself, the world needs more people who value these things 🙏🏻
I particularly enjoy how you lead people to biblical principles without preachy language, quite accessible for your modern reader. This is what I'm attempting in my own way, though not as talented as you!
That means a lot. I’m a Christian, but Jesus never tried to convert anyone, he just loved people. That’s my intention when I write, to share my beliefs occasionally while respecting others and not needing to impose my truth. Everyone is so welcomed here 🤍
When one rereads the gospel story about “The women at the well” it becomes clearer that Jesus desired to reverse the fall by Adam and Eve namely infiltration and corruption by the serpent . He began his longest biblically recorded conversation with a Samaritan woman . Together in communication they used word play with double entredres. They both were at the well because of thirst ; Jesus showed Hur living water .
Thank you so much. I'll share something I wrote on X, earlier this year:
"The naked body shouldn’t be sexualized, it represents beauty and purity. A naked body is art itself, it is God’s perfect creation.
During the classical + Hellenistic periods in Greece, and the Roman period, it was very common to create art where both men and women were undressed. This wasn’t to sexualize them. They simply understood that the human body was art. Nudity was always used as a way to represent beauty, good health (athleticism) and divinity. Late Roman art also used nudity to represent strength (“Heroic nudity”), and purity (yes, purity).
Our God-given (naked) body has nothing to do with lust or sin (unless it’s used in those ways). It’s beauty, it’s sacred, and we must honor it and treat it that way"
For me it is longing for the good thing, that intimacy with a person who has chosen me to build a life together with, to be my partner and companion in sickness and in health.
Premarital sex would always be a letdown, and me giving up on ever having the complete experience, premarital sex would, for me, be like saying I wasn’t worth marriage, that I wasn’t worth someone wanting to be with me forever.
Amazing and powerful words. Thank you for this. So much I want to quote with a restack. I'll also share the entire post. Maybe just one person that needs to read this will take the time to do so.
Cleo, I loved this message. This is something I've felt intuitively but lacked deeper clarity on. However, as I was reading it, I did feel a lot of guilt—not because of your delivery, which was incredibly compassionate, but because I recently interrupted my celibacy with a man I felt spiritual resonance with and friendly love toward, but he wasn't the one my heart longs for. I even told him about it, and yet we acted unwisely.
It wasn’t temptation rooted in physical attraction but perhaps that very impulse to rebel disguised as curiosity. Somewhere in my journey, I started wondering if my celibacy was actually halting my ability to create in the world. And since this man and I connected beautifully (and he had been celibate for years as well), I felt compelled to say yes. I had been hermiting, and thus I hadn’t tested it—but it seems I hadn’t found the strength to say no, so my mind simply justified what I was saying yes to. Regardless, it was a terribly huge mistake, and my body knew it right away. It was a disservice to us both.
I wish navigating sexuality didn’t feel so treacherous and tricky, especially when trying to reframe the scars created by childhood sexual trauma. Thankfully, your article is giving words to why it’s important to make this decision from a conscious and loving place, not a fearful one.
If it’s okay, I’d like to ask if you have any guidance on how to purify the being after such an experience.
Thank you so much for your being and your shares ♡ I appreciate you deeply.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me, Valentina, and for being vulnerable.
Before you "purify" yourself, I'd recommend that you give yourself the same love and compassion you'd give a loved one if they were going through the same thing. You are human, and sometimes it's so necessary to remember that instead of feeling guilt. If someone you love told you this exact same story, what would you say to them? Hug yourself, remind yourself that it's okay to just be human, and you don't need to feel ashamed. Plus, you've learned so many beautiful things about yourself and what you truly feel comfortable with and need, so something very positive and beautiful came out of this experience.
And to purify yourself, I believe the best thing you can do is stay celibate again and simply pour so much into yourself until you find your person—the right person—and you can pour into them as well. The right person will never try to push your boundaries, and they will fall deeply in love with your soul first.
Celibacy is purifying. It is healing. It will make you feel so good again 🤍
Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful. In your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young. Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely. Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate behind your veil. Your neck is like the tower of David, built in rows of stone; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors. Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that graze among the lilies. Until the day breathes and the shadows flee, I will go away to the mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense. You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.
Song of Solomon 4:1-7~
You are a very sacredly wise divine woman Cleopatra, your tender grace always intimately touches my tender soul with the most beautiful heavenly flame of cherishing Holy Spirit, your essence within my life is a beautiful blessed experience of holy love, my prayers are always guided to you for my deep appreciation of your light within my life, I have always been a humble modest man. I always felt comfortable being who God made me, celibacy is a beautiful spiritual practice that truly fulfills one’s life with the deepest connection to the heavenly blissful eternal.
Thank you. Beautiful work. As a male who has been told he’s extremely handsome his whole life, but has been sexually disciplined, I’ve been questioned often by both men and women as to why. Of course, most think it’s because of insecurity or fear or not being alpha, you name it. When I tell them that as a young child I experienced what infidelity does to a family, friendships and a community and lived with a father who was anything but sexually disciplined it leaves deep scars. It’s taken me years to come to terms with that part of myself. From now on I can share this essay with them as my answer.
Thank you so much for sharing. Just because some people don't fully understand it doesn't mean it's not normal. It makes even more sense when you've experienced the things you did in your childhood. Some events in my childhood also shaped me into the woman I am today and are the reason I've chosen this path.
Keep honoring yourself, the world needs more people who value these things 🙏🏻
This is a wise and courageous essay. Thank you for sharing
Thank you sm!
I particularly enjoy how you lead people to biblical principles without preachy language, quite accessible for your modern reader. This is what I'm attempting in my own way, though not as talented as you!
That means a lot. I’m a Christian, but Jesus never tried to convert anyone, he just loved people. That’s my intention when I write, to share my beliefs occasionally while respecting others and not needing to impose my truth. Everyone is so welcomed here 🤍
100% - we should compare notes sometime! You seem to have found a way to strike the right balance.
There are lots of young men and women out there who are lost. I hope our writings can be lighthouses for them.
When one rereads the gospel story about “The women at the well” it becomes clearer that Jesus desired to reverse the fall by Adam and Eve namely infiltration and corruption by the serpent . He began his longest biblically recorded conversation with a Samaritan woman . Together in communication they used word play with double entredres. They both were at the well because of thirst ; Jesus showed Hur living water .
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Yes! I love how none of those pictures are pornography but all are nude/sexual. See the difference everyone ? See? Ahh nice piece.
Thank you so much. I'll share something I wrote on X, earlier this year:
"The naked body shouldn’t be sexualized, it represents beauty and purity. A naked body is art itself, it is God’s perfect creation.
During the classical + Hellenistic periods in Greece, and the Roman period, it was very common to create art where both men and women were undressed. This wasn’t to sexualize them. They simply understood that the human body was art. Nudity was always used as a way to represent beauty, good health (athleticism) and divinity. Late Roman art also used nudity to represent strength (“Heroic nudity”), and purity (yes, purity).
Our God-given (naked) body has nothing to do with lust or sin (unless it’s used in those ways). It’s beauty, it’s sacred, and we must honor it and treat it that way"
Yes right on beautiful. And sexy and pornified are two different things.
For me it is longing for the good thing, that intimacy with a person who has chosen me to build a life together with, to be my partner and companion in sickness and in health.
Premarital sex would always be a letdown, and me giving up on ever having the complete experience, premarital sex would, for me, be like saying I wasn’t worth marriage, that I wasn’t worth someone wanting to be with me forever.
Yes the Marian apparition analogy is beautiful and true .
Amazing and powerful words. Thank you for this. So much I want to quote with a restack. I'll also share the entire post. Maybe just one person that needs to read this will take the time to do so.
Thank you so much 🤍🤍
Cleo, I loved this message. This is something I've felt intuitively but lacked deeper clarity on. However, as I was reading it, I did feel a lot of guilt—not because of your delivery, which was incredibly compassionate, but because I recently interrupted my celibacy with a man I felt spiritual resonance with and friendly love toward, but he wasn't the one my heart longs for. I even told him about it, and yet we acted unwisely.
It wasn’t temptation rooted in physical attraction but perhaps that very impulse to rebel disguised as curiosity. Somewhere in my journey, I started wondering if my celibacy was actually halting my ability to create in the world. And since this man and I connected beautifully (and he had been celibate for years as well), I felt compelled to say yes. I had been hermiting, and thus I hadn’t tested it—but it seems I hadn’t found the strength to say no, so my mind simply justified what I was saying yes to. Regardless, it was a terribly huge mistake, and my body knew it right away. It was a disservice to us both.
I wish navigating sexuality didn’t feel so treacherous and tricky, especially when trying to reframe the scars created by childhood sexual trauma. Thankfully, your article is giving words to why it’s important to make this decision from a conscious and loving place, not a fearful one.
If it’s okay, I’d like to ask if you have any guidance on how to purify the being after such an experience.
Thank you so much for your being and your shares ♡ I appreciate you deeply.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me, Valentina, and for being vulnerable.
Before you "purify" yourself, I'd recommend that you give yourself the same love and compassion you'd give a loved one if they were going through the same thing. You are human, and sometimes it's so necessary to remember that instead of feeling guilt. If someone you love told you this exact same story, what would you say to them? Hug yourself, remind yourself that it's okay to just be human, and you don't need to feel ashamed. Plus, you've learned so many beautiful things about yourself and what you truly feel comfortable with and need, so something very positive and beautiful came out of this experience.
And to purify yourself, I believe the best thing you can do is stay celibate again and simply pour so much into yourself until you find your person—the right person—and you can pour into them as well. The right person will never try to push your boundaries, and they will fall deeply in love with your soul first.
Celibacy is purifying. It is healing. It will make you feel so good again 🤍
This is just what I needed and even more. Thank you so, so much, beautiful angel 🤍🙏🏼
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Thank you for this. I've never thought about this. Insightful text! It made me think differently about the topic!
Thank you!
Yes, Yes, Yes and YES!!!
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Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful. In your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes that have come up from the washing, all of which bear twins, and not one among them has lost its young. Your lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely. Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate behind your veil. Your neck is like the tower of David, built in rows of stone; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors. Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that graze among the lilies. Until the day breathes and the shadows flee, I will go away to the mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense. You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.
Song of Solomon 4:1-7~
You are a very sacredly wise divine woman Cleopatra, your tender grace always intimately touches my tender soul with the most beautiful heavenly flame of cherishing Holy Spirit, your essence within my life is a beautiful blessed experience of holy love, my prayers are always guided to you for my deep appreciation of your light within my life, I have always been a humble modest man. I always felt comfortable being who God made me, celibacy is a beautiful spiritual practice that truly fulfills one’s life with the deepest connection to the heavenly blissful eternal.
Mantic Flame~
Thank you! 🙏🏼
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I wondering if you mean “chastity”?